How do you make your health a priority?

My husband says happy wife, happy life, but he understands that I need fitness because it helps with my mental health. He will always say I will take the kids, go do your workout. He helps me make that space for myself and I will help make that space for him too.

My workouts aren’t rigid. Mine are creative movements. It’s dance, it’s opening up pathways. It is my mental health. Depression runs in my family. My grandmother was bipolar. My degree was in behavioral psychology. The fertility things that I’ve been through, the hormonal injections, I’ve been able to share all the ups and downs. I understand what that feels like. So the biggest thing for me is always coming back to say, what is it that I need?

How do you manage your anxiety?

It was about 10 years ago now when we started the fertility process. There were so many ups and downs. If you’re going through the actual injections, IVF, IUI, it makes it even harder because you now have this hormonal disconnection within you that increases depression and thoughts. I know how to control my thoughts and I’m the most positive person I always say to a fault. I cannot give up on something. And sometimes, I wish I could.

“When you have that hormonal disconnection, it’s something that needs focus.”

Visualize whatever it is you want. I would visualize my children and it truly worked out. We adopted my first child, which we always planned to do. Then Poppy, who is our birth child, is the easiest, happiest baby. The word that she repeats all day is happy. Your fertility journey may not be from the path that you’re thinking. But keep your head up and your blessings will be double-fold from the hardships that you go through. Both my daughters are examples of that.